Sometimes our sexual encounters leave us with more than just fun memories.
Waking up the next morning – or the next week – with any suspicion of something awry on or in your nether-regions is certainly cause for alarm.
While almost all non-serious issues can be resolved through over-the-counter medicines or mild prescriptions from your doctor, you definitely need to consider the health and well-being of your sexual partner.
So what do you do if you suspect something that was so amazing in the moment has possibly triggered something to go embarrassingly wrong?
1. Determine a Course of Action:
Once you have identified that you have something to be concerned about, schedule an appointment at your doctor or local clinic immediately to get whatever it is that you’re experiencing diagnosed and treated as soon as possible.
Be open with your doctor or clinician about exactly what happened to help them pinpoint the cause.
Wouldn’t you want to know?
If a phone call is too hard for you to stomach, text a message, but make sure you let your partner know that you’re seeking medical attention and that you will let him / her know the outcome.
Showing honesty is always best in these types of situations. There is no need to apologize because you don’t necessarily know the cause. Just because you’re the one bringing it up doesn’t mean you’re responsible. Just take care of your health.
Here’s an example:
“Full disclosure: I seem to have developed XYZ after our encounter last (night / week) and wanted to let you know that I’m heading to the doctor today / tomorrow to get it checked out. I wanted to let you know in case you noticed anything on your end. I’ll keep you updated as soon as I know more.”
It’s always s good practice to make sure you have the phone number of even a one-night fling to make sure that you’re able to give them the heads up if something turns up.
Being the first to communicate also opens up the door for your partner to express any concerns. Guys and girls are sometimes hesitant to bring up these issues for fear that they’re responsible, but you have to keep in mind that sexually transmitted infections are never one-sided.
If you’ve got it, your partner most likely does, too.
If you alert someone to an issue, make sure you follow through with the diagnosis. Silence in these types of situations is scary, so if you’re waiting for results from blood or urine tests, let your partner know and update them as soon as you hear have an answer.
4. Do Your Best to Determine What Caused It
Did you have unprotected sex? Did you go from anal to vaginal without changing condoms or washing hands? Did you insert something into your body that you weren’t sure was clean?
Think about it and correct for next time.
If your partner did have an STI or STD but failed to inform you before you got busy, make sure you ask next time when you’re not about to rip each other’s clothes off.
And if you’re the one who’s being asked: Be honest.
No one wants to deal with this shit.