The Fun Way to Stay in Shape

The Un-Sexy After

Sometimes our sexual encounters leave us with more than just fun memories.

Waking up the next morning – or the next week – with any suspicion of something awry on or in your nether-regions is certainly cause for alarm.

While almost all non-serious issues can be resolved through over-the-counter medicines or mild prescriptions from your doctor, you definitely need to consider the health and well-being of your sexual partner.

So what do you do if you suspect something that was so amazing in the moment has possibly triggered something to go embarrassingly wrong?


1. Determine a Course of Action:
Once you have identified that you have something to be concerned about, schedule an appointment at your doctor or local clinic immediately to get whatever it is that you’re experiencing diagnosed and treated as soon as possible.

Be open with your doctor or clinician about exactly what happened to help them pinpoint the cause.

2. Communicate:
No matter how embarrassing it may be, you must let your parter know that something is wrong.

Wouldn’t you want to know?

If a phone call is too hard for you to stomach, text a message, but make sure you let your partner know that you’re seeking medical attention and that you will let him / her know the outcome.

Showing honesty is always best in these types of situations.  There is no need to apologize because you don’t necessarily know the cause.  Just because you’re the one bringing it up doesn’t mean you’re responsible.  Just take care of your health.

Here’s an example:

“Full disclosure: I seem to have developed XYZ after our encounter last (night / week) and wanted to let you know that I’m heading to the doctor today / tomorrow to get it checked out.  I wanted to let you know in case you noticed anything on your end.  I’ll keep you updated as soon as I know more.”

It’s always s good practice to make sure you have the phone number of even a one-night fling to make sure that you’re able to give them the heads up if something turns up.

Being the first to communicate also opens up the door for your partner to express any concerns.  Guys and girls are sometimes hesitant to bring up these issues for fear that they’re responsible, but you have to keep in mind that sexually transmitted infections are never one-sided.

If you’ve got it, your partner most likely does, too.


3. Follow-Up:
If you alert someone to an issue, make sure you follow through with the diagnosis.  Silence in these types of situations is scary, so if you’re waiting for results from blood or urine tests, let your partner know and update them as soon as you hear have an answer.


4. Do Your Best to Determine What Caused It
Did you have unprotected sex?  Did you go from anal to vaginal without changing condoms or washing hands?  Did you insert something into your body that you weren’t sure was clean?

Think about it and correct for next time.

If your partner did have an STI or STD but failed to inform you before you got busy, make sure you ask next time when you’re not about to rip each other’s clothes off.

And if you’re the one who’s being asked: Be honest.

No one wants to deal with this shit.

Cheating Yourself

For some of us, sexual partners come and go.

We may meet someone we’re attracted to and after a few encounters – or maybe that same night – we have the opportunity to sleep with them.

Sometimes, we give it one go and it’s done – sometimes it’s great, but sometimes it’s a little lack luster.

Rather than giving up, never to return a phone call, text and to stack it all up to “awkward sex,” get a grip and think about a repeat.

Sexual encounters are extremely intimate, even if we take emotion out of the equation.  They  require learning and time to perfect and to bring things up to an intense and pleasurable level.

You are a unique individual and so is your partner.  What works for you – or has worked for someone in the past  – could have no impact on someone else.

You need to keep an open mind and after you get over the initial hump, try it again after you’ve talked about what worked / what didn’t.

Don’t walk away from an amazing opportunity for you both to improve your techniques and your enjoyment just because your first encounter was “just okay.”

If the other half of the sexual sandwich is willing to pursue it again – I say take advantage of it.

Setting Your Sexpectations

If you’re an avid porn watcher, like many of us are, take the time to read this insightful article by Maxxters from The Sexperts’ Lounge.  It’s a great reminder for men and women alike, regarding the reality of sex.

Are your sexpectations realistic?

The Sex Box

Regardless of whether or not you know how to host a dinner party, you should be man enough to know how to host an overnight guest.

Think about a Sex Box (or Sex Drawer) for your car, office, kitchen or bedroom.

Here’s the run down:

The Sex Box holds all the items needed to make you and your guest feel clean and comfortable before, during and after your escapade.  A few suggestions for things to include in your Sex Box:

  • Condoms (flavored and regular)
  • Dental damns
  • Lube 
  • Personal wipes
  • Tissues
  • Lotion / massage oil
  • Mouthwash 
  • Hand sanitizer
  • A dark towel and wash cloth
  • After dinner mints
  • Handcuffs
  • Anal plugs / vibrators (unless they can’t fit in the box)

Having things readily available and in one spot will ultimately make things easier and more pleasant for you both.

What would you add?

Sexercise #3: Pleasure Plank – Shoulders, Triceps, Chest, Core


Best when fully erect and both partners are well lubricated 

– Assume the downward dog position over your partner* after full arousal has been achieved
– Slowly scoop your body down and forward in a controlled manner
– As you come into a low plank position, slowly enter your sex-mate
– Continue the forward motion until full penetration has been achieved, scooping your body up slightly
– Pause, then slowly reverse yourself, pushing back on your hands and scooping your body away from your partner and into the downward dog position once again
– Repeat at least 10 times

: Try this move with your partner on her stomach

*partner not shown

Sexercise #2: Deep D Squats – Quads, Glutes, Core


Best when fully erect and both partners are well lubricated

– Have your partner mount you and achieve a standing position.
– Place your back close to a sofa, chair or table to act as a safety.
– Squat down, using your partner as a counterbalance, until your knees are parallel or almost parallel to the ground.
– Return to the initial standing position either slowly or quickly (as you / your partner prefers) and squeeze your glutes at the top of the motion, gently thrusting your pelvis forward.
– Repeat at least 10 reps and perform as many sets as you can.

Advanced: Hold the squat position either mid-way or at the bottom of the squat movement and rock your hips from side to side or gently pulse your pelvis forward.

Sexercise #1: Chick Lifts – Glutes & Core


– Lie on your back with knees bent and feet flat on the bed, floor, desk or other object (surface should be soft to provide comfort for your partner’s knees).
– Allow your partner to mount you, placing her knees on either side of your body.
– When ready: Exhale and slowly extend your hips upward, elevating your lower back.  Squeeze your glutes and core at the top of the movement and swerve your pelvis in a circular motion (right or left).
– Lower your hips to about one inch off the ground.
– Repeat the motion with the pelvis swerve to the opposite side.
– Perform at least 16 reps and as many sets as you / your partner wants.

Advanced: At the top of the movement, pulse your pelvis up toward the ceiling 10 times: Bounce.

Why You Need to Sexercise Starting Now

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The holidays are here and you’ve either already put on some pounds, or are in the process of doing so.

While your long-term partner not might care when she sees you naked, have some respect for yourself, man!  And damn-it to hell if you single guys don’t want to look slammin’ for your next conquest.

Start lifting again, bro?  Cut out the beer and switch to scotch and soda?  Maybe your Crossfit gym will welcome you back for a month, but why not get a workout doing something you love while enhancing your sexual repertoire.

You’ll be a hulk in no time and a hero in the sack.